Love is distinct from desire… Because its aim is not satisfaction, but being.
When, in love, I solicit a look, what is profoundly unsatisfying and always missing is that—you never look at me from the place from which I see you.
Jacques Lacan, “The Line and Light,” The Four Fundamental Concepts of Psychoanalysis
For the moment, I am not fucking, I am talking to you. Well! I can have exactly the same satisfaction as if I were fucking. That’s what it [sublimation] means. Indeed, it raises the question of whether in fact I am not fucking at this moment.
Jacques Lacan, The Deconstruction of the Drive from The Four Fundamental Concepts of Psycho-Analysis, translation by Alan Sheridan
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I can feel myself under the gaze of someone whose eyes I do not see, not even discern. All that is necessary is for something to signify to me that there may be others there. This window, if it gets a bit dark, and if I have reasons for thinking that there is someone behind it, is straight-away a gaze.
All sorts of things in the world behave like mirrors.
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Desire is always what is inscribed as a repercussion of the articulation of language at the level of the Other.
… it is worth restating that in the test of writing I am thinking: ‘therefore I am,’ with quotes around the second clause, it is legible that thought only grounds being by knotting itself in speech where every operation goes right to the essence of language.
I love you, but, because inexplicably I love in you something more than you … I mutilate you.
the unconscious is structured like a language.
Reality is for those who cannot tolerate the dream. “Reality” is a fantasy-construction which enables us to mask the Real of our desires.
Jacques Lacan - The Four Fundamental Concepts of Psychoanalysis (Harmondsworth, 1979)